Tuesday, October 11, 2011

National Coming Out Day


This is a very big day for hundreds, possibly thousands of individuals today. I can't even imagine how difficult this decision must be for some people but I respect the courageous leap they are taking today.

It's unfortunate reality that we live in a society where prejudice still exists. Discrimination, both legal and illegal, is not a rarity. Even the physical safety of the LBGT community can be at risk. This is the reality some of our peers, friends, loved ones, colleagues, and acquaintances are facing today.

  • In most states you can still be fired from your job, simply for being LGBT, and have no legal resource because currently no federal non-discrimination law protects LGBT Americans. 
  • 86% of LGBT students report being verbally harassed at school
  • Homelessness of LGBT and questioning youth is a major problem in America. More than 100,000 annually experience short periods of displacement from their homes. 

It is important to be cognizant of these facts, not so you can worry, but so you can do something about it! So... how can you support those who have taken this giant leap of trust, freedom, and truth?

  • Support local and national businesses with appropriate anti-discrimination policies
  • Speaking up when demeaning "humor" is happening
  • Find ou if your employer has an equal rights policy - and if not, encourage the organization's leadership to adopt one. 
  • Learn where political candidates stand on issues that have an impact on the LGBT community

Let's love one another for who we are not what we are

For many people the LGBT community is an unfamiliar territory. Here's a list of terms for your personal information.

LGBT – An acronym for “lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender.”


Lesbian – A woman who is emotionally, romantically, sexually and relationally attracted to other women.

Gay – A word describing a man or a woman who is emotionally, romantically, sexually and relationally attracted to members of the same sex.

Bisexual – A person emotionally, romantically, sexually and relationally attracted to both men and women, though not necessarily simultaneously; a bisexual person may not be equally attracted to both sexes, and the degree of attraction may vary as sexual identity develops over time.

Transgender – A term describing a broad range of people who experience and/or express their gender differently from what most people expect. It is an umbrella term that includes people who are transsexual, cross-dressers or otherwise gender non-conforming.

Transsexual - A medical term describing people whose gender and sex do not line up, who can often seek medical treatments to bring their body an gender identity into alignment. Avoid using this term unless an individual self-identifies as transsexual. 

Queer – Often used interchangeably with “LGBT.” Be mindful that the term may have negative or derogatory connotations for some people; however, many younger people are comfortable using it.

Gender identity – One’s personal sense of their gender. For transgender people, their birth-assigned sex and their own sense of gender identity do not match.

Genderqueer – A word people use to describe their own non-standard gender identity or expression.

Same-gender loving – A term some prefer to use instead of “lesbian” or “gay” to express attraction to and love of people of the same gender.

Sexual orientation – An inherent or immutable enduring emotional, romantic, sexual and relational attraction to another person; may be a same-sex orientation, opposite- sex orientation or a bisexual orientation.

Coming out – The process in which a person first acknowledges, accepts and appreciates his or her sexual orientation or gender identity and begins to share that with others.

Gender expression – External manifestation of one’s gender identity, usually expressed through masculine, feminine or gender-variant behavior, clothing, haircut, voice or body characteristics. Typically, transgender people seek to make their gender expression match their gender identity, rather than their birth-assigned sex.

Homophobia – The fear and hatred of, or discomfort with, people who love and are attracted to members of the same sex.

Internalized homophobia – Self-identification of societal stereotypes by a LGBT person, causing them to dislike and resent their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Living openly – A state in which LGBT people are comfortably out about their sexual orientation or gender identity – where and when it feels appropriate to them.

Outing – Exposing someone’s sexual orientation as being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender to others, without their permission; in essence “outing” them from the closet. Outing someone can have serious employment/economic/ safety/religious repercussions in some situations.

Sexual preference – What a person likes or prefers to do sexually; a conscious recognition or choice not to be confused with sexual orientation.

Straight supporter – A person who supports and honors the diversity of sexual orientation, acts accordingly to challenge homophobic remarks and behaviors and explores and understands these forms of bias within him- or herself.


Most of my information is from the Human Rights Campaign website 

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

My Future Life.

The things I would do if  WILL do when I..
1) No longer live with my parents
2) Own Rent my own place
3) Have an income
4) Have children
5) Graduate from grad school.

I will dress my kid up in hilarious Halloween costumes!

When my kid can't walk yet...
Source: google.com via Taryn on Pinterest


When my kid is still too young to know I'm dressing *it* for my own entertainment...


I will live here:
Large porch + lots of windows



Put this stuff inside it...
Walk up/slide down

H U G E  sofa



Sticks + Frame


Chair:


Wall Decor

Elmer glue + canvas (I'd probably add a pinch of sparkle to it!)




Book Shelf


Cant forget to have a f a t cat "running" around!


You can view all of my someone else's super creative ideas that I stole on my pinterest page here: http://pinterest.com/malkent/

Ahhh someday... but for now, I've got 2 tests and a project due today. I better quit daydreaming! xoxo

Sunday, September 11, 2011

September 11th, 2001

I was a sophomore in high school. 2nd hour. I was sitting in the front row of my biology class (assigned seating... obviously. Why teachers place the talkative, attention-seeking, know-it-alls in the front of the classroom is beyond me... but that discussion is for a different day...) praying for an escape from the interminable monotonous lecture.

What I would've given for a cell phone during that class. However, one student did and all of a sudden this quiet, smart kid in the back raised his hand. "Umm I just got a text from my friend in Mrs. Kinely's room that said a plane hit a building in New York and it's on fire so they're watching the news down there... can we watch the news?" The teacher kindly responded, "Absolutely not. If we have time at the end of class I'll turn it on but we've got a lot of stuff to cover."

Shortly after, a loud-mouth (also in the front row) interrupted the teacher to tell her that all the other teachers turned on the news, too. With a little more convincing, our teacher to turn on the news.

I vividly remember the words "Terrorist" and "Twin Towers" highlighted at the bottom of the screen. Me being the super-genius kid that I was, had no idea what either of those words meant. Apparently neither did my teacher because she said "oh gosh, it's nothing. You guys can watch it in your next class if your teacher allows it but I'm going to continue on with my lecture." She turned the TV off.

Although I had no idea what was going on the high-level of drama, gossip, and distraction from classroom activities was right down my ally. As passing period arrived, I remember a friend trying to explain to me what a terrorist is--I didn't get it.

3rd hour. World Cultures. News on. Glued to the news as we watched and re-watched the plane, and the second plane, purposely, viciously, and maliciously hit the twin towers. The tower fell. You could see people jumping out of windows. Chaos.

September 11th, 2001 
10 years ago
You can watch this video on youtube at 9-11-01

Here's to all the men and women that lost their lives. And to the men, women, and children that are still recovering from the trauma they suffered that day, and many years following. My deepest empathy. My most sincere prayers.


frumforum.com
911review.com
eworldpost.com


Monday, September 5, 2011

Stupid. Stupider.

The other day I saw the back of a company shirt that read:
Providing quality service since 10 years.
A company shirt. How embarrassing! Thanks to someone in an upper-level management position who didn't catch the error or didn't know the difference... oops???

After witnessing that poorly advertised company shirt I was motivated to dedicate an entire blog post to businesses that use poor grammar. And I will forever judge them.

"If YOUR single so am I" 
WetSeal
If you don't know what's wrong with this shirt... look it up. And feel embarrassed...

"Lets Go!"
Old Navy
Note: These t-shirts were designed for college teams. BAH! Kind of ironic.

"YOURSOCUTE" boots
"Have your girlfriends tell you 'Yoursocute' when you show up to your lunch date in these remarkable suede wedge heel boots." 
This is annoying for so many reasons. 
I hate that they forced 3 words together.
I hate how they advertise for them.
I hate that they put YOUR instead of YOU'RE
Even if it was You're so cute... it's still stupid.


"WELCOME FREE WIFE CONTIL BREAKFAST INDOOR POOL & HOT TUB..."
No... it's not the lack of commas that is noteworthy here. Free WIFE! HAHAHA!

Now seriously... this is so sad. It should be sent to Jay Leno... 

Although this last example doesn't have a grammatical error... it's still disappointing... just in general
"I'm too pretty to do homework so my brother has to do it for me." 
JC Penny
Yeah... because girls are there to look pretty and boys are there to be smart. This shirt makes me sick. 
This shirt clearly was designed to make it to the JC Penny floor in the early 80's but somehow got placed  in 2011... sick. Just blah.  


Here's why grammar matters:


Please note: although I find poor grammar amusing, please don't judge my poor grammar. We can judge:
Old Navy
WetSeal
Nine West
Days Inn
JC Penny

But don't judge me! That's fair! Thanks!

*Some examples found on http://thegrammarvandal.wordpress.com

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

The First World Problems Rap

Which I prefer to title the "lazy generation." This 17-year old kid captures exactly what I mean...

"The First World Problems" By Zach Katz

I hate to sound like a cranky old woman but I believe this teenage generation has been blessed with technology... Internet... lightening speed solutions to homework questions... zero tolerance for waiting on answers... I could go on and on.

Does this techno-generation have an unconscious... or conscious... entitlement to things previous generations had to work undoubtedly hard for? Prosperous jobs? Money? Success? I'm starting to think so. This nature of entitlement could have serious consequences in the future for both the generation as well as our society as a whole.

Will college enrollment rates decrease because kids think someone will soon discover the YouTube video's they have been creating for the last 4 years instead of studying for tests at school. Do they yearn to become instantly rich and famous with as little effort as possible? Will the rate of kids living with their parents after age 21 skyrocket because they can't tear themselves away from a video game? Will they give up on learning new things if they don't get a lightening speed solution or response?


Maybe I am a cranky old woman... but I think I have a point!

Friday, August 5, 2011

Rhyme for the Time.

I've neglected my blog... but for good reason.

I have been...

Boating in the Ozarks,
A bachelorette party in Minneapolis,
Watched fireworks in Kansas City,
Drove to Chicago to see my sissy!

I have been mountain biking,
I have been mountain climbing,
I have seen a male stripper... 
Oh how I wish I was lying...

I have played a lot of sports,
Like kickball in Chicago,
Beer pong in Kansas City,
... Des Moines and Colorado

I have canoed on a river,
Layed out by the pool,
Became tearful at weddings,
And danced like a fool.

This summer has been an adventure,
For that I am sure,
I even got a black eye,
From a really tall guy.

It's only a matter of time,
Until my fun will end,
School is on it's way here,
This fill me with great fear. 

But summer is not over yet,
There is more fun to be had,
I'm getting on a plane tomorrow,
And headed for ORLANDO!!!!


Bachelorette Parties
Kiley
Angela
Anne

Boating in the Ozarks...

Chicago, Ill.


Crested Butte, Colorado

On our way up the mountain... snow... in July!

We were so high up (given the elevation at ground level was 19,000+) 
I actually became strangely affected by the altitude. 
I thought I was going to throw up over the side of the mountain, I was shaking, and became weirdly emotional... I can't explain it. It was weird.
Brad: "Why are you crying?"
Me: "I don't know... I can't stop"
Brad: "oh geez... again?"  Roles eyes.


The Black Eye
I'm sure you are all wondering how a grown adult gets a black eye? Or you're thinking my BF did it. But it was a frying pan. That's right. A frying pan hit me in the face. A HUGE frying pan fell from the ceiling of stephanie's apartment and hit me straight in the face.

I totally pulled it off though... don't worry.
However, Brad sure did get some dirty looks over the past 2 weeks. Yes, I still have a black eye... two weeks later. But I've learned to work what the pan gave me!!!



I will leave you with a candid Stephanie captured. It appears as though I'm meditating and the Lord is beaming down on me. Although the Lord may be beaming down on me, I actually just got done with a steep hike and was enjoying an ice cold Budwiser.
Hard. Ass.



Friday, May 20, 2011

Rapture or Not: Let's Analyze.

Shut up... it could happen! Let me explain...

Monday morning my sister, Morgan, sent me this link to an article/broadcast on NPR, titled "The End is Near." Apparently, Harold Camping, an 86-year-old has predicted that Judgement Day will occur...
TOMORROW...?

Crap. 

Over the past 5 days I have done some serious thinking. What if it happens... am I ready? Besides, it's gotta happen sometime, right? Why not tomorrow? 

Now, my issue isn't with dying or the world ending per-say. It's with how the world will end. According to the bible, it is a very scary event. One that I wish to not witness. Surely the God I know wouldn't allow me, a sweet, innocent little girl witness this event...

I couldn't stop thinking about death, dying, heaven, hell, the end of the world, the whole sha-bang. I know... you're probably thinking: dramatic much, Mallory? But when was the last time you seriously thought about it? If ever? Everything sounds far too dramatic. Far too extreme. And to be honest, far too scary... for such a loving, peaceful, forgivable God that we all know and love. I mean... think about it: What if the words in the bible are literal and true? 
What if when the world ends it will be horror above all horror? 
Do those who don't believe really go to hell? 
What about teenagers who are simply in a rebellious phase? 
What about the mean people in the world that do terribly mean thing who simply weren't given enough love from their parents? 

It really doesn't seem fair to leave anyone behind. I feel like the God I love would allow everyone into Heaven. Some people weren't given the same opportunities like... wonderful parents, sufficient resources, support system... etc.

God must take all of this into account, right?
 I really hope.

I concluded these thoughts are occurring because of two reasons:
 1) I have far too much time on my hands right now (no job... no school... no kids...) 
 2) My relationship with God has drifted since the last time I thought about a rapture. 
Which I must say would probably be around the age of ummmm... 5!

For this reason, I met with my friend, mentor, and youth leader, Brenda Applegate, who is laid-back enough to understand where I'm coming from and competent enough to help me work through these uncertainties.

 So... what I know... now:
1) God is Just
He knows all hearts, all things. He has the ability to measure someones heart in a way we cannot conceptualize. Everything will be justified. It will be fair. It will be very fair. No need to worry about that.

2) God is in the world... right now. 
He witnesses and feels the temptations, pressures, choices, and decisions you make. Every day. He's there. He's a current, present God. Not just a God from ancient, unthinkable, olden-times. 

I learned a lot more than that in the past few days but those are the main things. I am not scared or worried anymore that I will witness the rapture. I have faith that God will not make me witness it. I hope. Most importantly, I learned I've got a relationship to work on. But, that's fine. I've got nothing but time... I guess I might as well invest some time into my eternity. 


I know this blog post was a bit heavy but you know what, sometimes we need to do some deep thinking... organize our thoughts and re-prioritize. 
Thanks everyone for reading.